Backfired

What is the defination of a friend? Friend- a: one attached to another by affection or esteem b: acquaintance2 a: one that is not hostile b: one that is of the same nation, party, or group3: one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)4: a favored companion5capitalized : a member of a Christian sect that stresses Inner Light, rejects sacraments and an ordained ministry, and opposes war —called also Quaker

I like to think that is what i am. I try to help others that are close to me any way that I can. I give a hundred percent into my friendships. When they need someone to talk to I am there. SO why is it that when I try to talk to my "Friends" I tend to bring out the worse or make them sad? It is not my intentions. I mean why would I do such a thing to the people in my life? If you are in my life it means that you matter to me so I could not do such a thing. Or better yet why is that when I try to conversate with one of them they have to go and assume that it is I have a crush on them? Why can't it be just because I want to talk to them? I am so sick of hearing about the things that I cause after I drag it out of them. Can you not just be honest and upfront? So I guess that I will just have to go back to being the person I was and not socialize or help anyone because I am tired of this. Tired of others thinking that I have a second agenda. ANd here i was thinking that I was actually helping them. Damn how stupid could I be.